Cresting the Waves:

A guide to sailing through life on

Relation-Ships

Dane E. Colby

Table of Contents



1.     Author's Bio

2.     Introduction


3.    Ways to View this Book:

Unconscious Guidance

Why so much Shadow?

This Book will Trigger You

Human Beauty/ Human Inadequacy

Criticize and Appreciate

Undervalued Stocks


4.     Serving Your Divine Child


5.     Tools to Build and Maintain Your Ship:

The Life Partnership Questionnaire

A list of Relationship Skills

Amazing Long Distance

Indicate or Be Direct

Valuable Perspectives

Know Your Customers

The Self Pity Ritual

Understanding Values


6.    Relating to Our Wounds:

Twisted Endings

Dance of Sabotage

What Makes Abuse?

Windows into Addiction

Addictive Cycles

Growth Backlashes

Where Loyalties Lie

No Win Intimacy

The Rejection Cycle

Rage at Innocence

Subtle Torture

Feeling Invisible

When More Creates a Feeling of Less

A Rest from Truth

The Pull To Violence

It's all too Much


7.    Sexuality:

Killer Programs

Sex and Pain

No Win of the Slut

Pornography

Honor All of Your Sexual Selves

Times of Giving and Receiving


8.    Support Your Relationships with Growth:

The Intimacy Game

Going into Business for Yourself

The Choice to Have Children

Space and Connection

Playing with Personas

Piercing Personas

Relationship Contracts

A Path of Healing

Birth of a Martyr

Finding Our Saturation Point

Create Safety with Responsibility

Playing Your Edge

Freedom From the Past

Shaking Things Up

Refusing to Receive What we Can't Live Without

Learning to Dance

Reclaiming Our Lost Selves


9.   Dancing With Divinity:

Sword of Choice

Finding Our Soul Mate

Magic and Form

Deconstructing Harry

Seeing Divinity in Our Lover

The Big Relationship

Split Faces of God

The Dance between Love and Shadow

The Love Addiction

Truth is Alive

A Relationship is an Eternity

The Theater of Selves


10.   Seeing and Being Seen by Your Partner:

A Relationship Budget

Bringers of Truth

A Gift to Our Partners

Castrating Our Selves With Contracts

Anger at Men

Relationships as Service

Our Soul Mate

Beautiful Endings

I Love You

Sirens of Perfection

A Healthy Diet

Setting Your Gems

Partner Compatibility

Deposits in the Relationship Account

Appreciations! Appreciations! Appreciations!

Solving Problems vs. Being Present

Changing Perception

What Can You Promise?

Love is like the Sun

Can I Trust You?

The Push/Pull Dance

Specialists in Life


11.   Personal Power:

The Power of Yes!

Your Upper Limit of Success

Raising Your Upper Limit of Success

Wave and Particle Based Manifestation

Increase Your Vision

Consciously Playing the Game

Creating Limitless Possibility

Why We Don't Ask

Cooking Personas

Pacing a Crisis

Awareness is Power

Owning Our Lineage

The Need to Matter

Guilty Dreams

Who Said it Had to be This Way?

A Right To Be Where We Are

Your Relationship Altar

Cultivating Proactive Motivation

Power to Cognize

Accepting What Is

Absolute Values


12.    A Dimension of Love:

A Dimension of Love

Many Kinds of Love

The Art of Love

Grinding to a Halt

Through Resistance

Medicinal Doses

The Reality of Love

The Power of Sex

Learning to Love


13.    Future Visions:

Serving From Within


14.   Growing New Eyes:

Reasons to be Paranoid

Points of View

Perspective and Connection

Perceiving Depth

Threatened by Another's Truth

Secret Conversations

Gems of Complexity

Breaking Deadlock

It's the Eyes that Count

Valuing Full Range

Embracing Life's Sick Sense of Humor

The Cost of Being Open

The Need For Balance

Our Modern Myths

About You?

Love Without Strings

Our Complex Selves

Evolving Dances

Skewed to the Negative

The Call of Beauty

Beauty of Death

The Investment Game

Open and Closed Systems



15.   Personal Stories:

A Tale of Shifting Roles

The Old and the Young

Our Choice of Vision

Manic Depressive

Using Filters

Gifts of Our Mythological Minds

Partnering In Personas

Honor The Gifts Within

Killing off the Ones We Love

Accessing Love

Embracing Obstacles

Bad Moods

Keeper Personas

Resolving Frustration

Our Factory of Creation

Pick Your Problems

Accepting Limitations


16.   Talking with the author

17.    Join the mailing List

18.    Relationship Resources



Cresting the Waves:

A guide to sailing through life on

Relation-Ships

Dane E. Rose