Pornography
To the degree pornography brings you pleasure and supports you in your healthy self expression, appreciate it’s beauty as well as it’s shadow. The fact that you are drawn to the beauty of the human body is in itself beautiful. For those of you drawn to fantasy involving pain, it is kind for you to play that out in your mind or with porn as a way of safely processing these emotions away from a lover. That is respectful of your partner and there are few safe places to do so in the world. The fact that you are paying for something that enables others to earn money sexually expressing their bodies is a gift you give to those who receive your money. Given the challenges of relating to another person it is valuable to stay sexually healthy even when dynamics with your partner leave one or both of you feeling unsafe to go deeply sexually. Rather than banish aspects of your sexuality that your partner does not wish to express with you, you are staying connected to parts of yourself that bring you gifts. That’s great!The most damaging aspect of porn is the shame and self hatred many use porn as an excuse to administer. Don’t do it to your self. Don’t shame your self for your sexuality.Action: Embrace your choice to enjoy the pornography, or fantasy you enjoy to the degree it supports you.
Cresting the Waves:
A guide to sailing through life on
Relation-Ships
Dane E. Rose
