Setting Our Gems

It is easy for diamonds to get lost when they are not set into the jewelry they adorn. So much of the skill of succeeding in life is being able to recognize our own diamonds and respect them enough to give them the context in which they are both welcome and stunning.

Harry was always fidgeting with his hands and carving scraps of wood. His wife was annoyed that he left shavings about the house and never seemed to give her his full attention. Harry knew he was disappointing and upsetting her and felt ashamed of the part of himself that was always making things. Then he decided to take a wood carving class and discovered how hungry he was to create beautiful sculptures. As he gradually accumulated the tools to do this well and honored this part of himself, his wife began to get interested and miss him in the woodshop. As she saw the beauty he was creating she saw him in a new light and their love deepened.

Every persona is both an asset and liability, based primarily on the context in which it is set. Consider that the parts of yourself that you dislike are in fact diamonds you have not learned to set in the right ring.

Action: Pick one of your personas that others find hard to be around as you currently express it. Explore the possibility of creating an environment where that self can do what it does best and be honored for it’s gifts.

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Cresting the Waves:

A guide to sailing through life on

Relation-Ships

Dane E. Rose