Honor the Gifts Within

Each persona has unique gifts that require respect for them to fully deliver them to us. This is so with our partner’s persona’s but even more so with our own. Doing so begins with understanding and celebrating their beauty.

I have a persona that is very prickly and gets hurt and rejected easily. He feels particularly betrayed by the white lies people tell to avoid uncomfortable truths. I call this persona “Matrix,” and his primary concern is for the larger body of energy of which we are all a part and protecting the energy strands of truth that link us all to it. When someone lies a chord of truth and connection is broken and Matrix feels the pain of disconnection that has just occurred.

Matrix has gotten me into all kinds of messy situations socially, as people wearing their social game face have no idea how to relate to someone so direct and honest. As a result I resigned much of my life to being an outsider in order to pursue the sight that Matrix has given me. Matrix is a big voice in the writing of this book.

Much as I have felt hurt, shame and anger at being sidelined, lied to and abandoned repeatedly, I have not banished Matrix, although I have refused to reveal him to many who have not have the skill to appreciate his gifts. Matrix is an incredible gem within my personality that gives me access to power and insight, and a beautiful creativity.

Which brings me to a much bigger point: We think that the way we treat others just affects them. But how we treat others is actually a reflection of how we treat that part of our selves. There are many selves. We treat each aspect of our selves differently. Until we learn to honor and respect the lover within us, we will be incapable of honoring a lover outside in such a way that they want to hang around.

Action: Consider: Many of your most painful “problems” are the result of the beauty within you that you and others do not know how to integrate into the limitations of our culture. Decide to treat each person as you would like that part in your self treated.

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Cresting the Waves:

A guide to sailing through life on

Relation-Ships

Dane E. Rose