Piercing the Persona
When someone has a rigid persona, it is an indicator that the consciousness is strongly linked with that persona and insecure of its existence outside of it. A consciousness that is secure in itself and its divine beauty will flow flexibly into many masks with interest and enthusiasm. People’s persona’s are often easy to strip back. What we call embarrassment is the glimpse of essence we see when a persona is involuntarily removed. Behaving in such a way that a person can relate to us within their comfortable personas is often the price of relationship and what is seen as kindness. We are all terrified of and drawn to the essence behind our persona’s. In light expressions this can mean ecstatic moments and gently asking permission to see behind our partners masks. In dark expressions, violence, trauma and abuse cross another’s boundaries by force, leaving them helpless to function in the world and in the process often inducing shame. Those of us drawn to violence in fantasy are often seeking the light of consciousness which becomes visible through force. This is alluring when the hunger for substance and meaning is great and there is not the skill or time to seduce it’s presence by gentler means. Action: Look with compassion as people express their violence in different ways. Often what is there is stark terror of movement away from the known persona or a hunger for connection that goes deeper than the one violating has skill to respectfully induce. Even as you protect yourself and loved ones from abuse, understand the dynamic. And within yourself: begin healing the pain of separation by embarking on a journey of removing your own and partners masks with permission.
Cresting the Waves:
A guide to sailing through life on
Relation-Ships
Dane E. Rose
