Love is like the Sun

We live in a world of duality, each aspect of it balanced by its opposite. We move between these polar opposites through with a cycle, like the seasons. To stop this flow is to stop the breath that brings life.

Love is like the sun. It shines brilliant and radiant and then, disappears behind the moon, leaving darkness. In the darkness we may fear: Is our love real? Do I truly love and am I truly loved? Will I ever find the light of my love again? The darkness is a death, which as we experience it, makes room for it to return with even more richness in the morning.

If love were as steady as the orbit of the sun it would be easy to trust this cycle. However each love has it’s own personal calendar. That it will go and return is our only certainty.

Letting it slip behind the moon, not knowing when it will return to us, is one of the most challenging things many of us will ever do. What is certain, is that if we hang on with control, we will not succeed. We will only feel more panic as we try and fail. We will be too busy trying when it returns again to enjoy it. It’s light will dim in our eyes in our distraction of control and lose more and more of it's value in the process. By embracing the waning of love and accepting it’s necessary cycle, we can  receive the gift of love when it is here all the more.

Action: Next time you or your partner experience a waning of love that feels natural, accept it. Perhaps talk about it a bit. Focus on other things and let the love go. Notice the difference between a natural waning and something that one of you does to hurt love.

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Dane E. Rose