The Pull to Violence

Our persona’s are created as a communication tool between our essence and the world. The persona’s we wear to engage both serve and obscure our essence.

Many of us wander in this obscurity of masks, longing to taste some of beauty that is just the other side of the wall of neatly packaged personas. We fight the apathy and numbness that comes in the forgetting of who we truly are.

This goal can be achieved through both love and pain:

•Shock

•Physical pain at certain levels

•Humor

•Drugs and alcohol

•Sexual Orgasm

•Profound safety and seeing

•Emotional and spiritual healing

•Disorientation

•Embarrassment and humiliation

Our sexuality is for many the only bastion of safety for the dry personas our culture allows to relax into something more meaningful. In lieu of the skill to create deep love and profound safety, avenues of pain and violence remain to shock one another out of our sleep into a few moments of direct experience without the mask of persona. Our conscious and unconscious willingness to engage in such pain is a symptom not of our sickness, but of our fundamental need to feel connected to source through our essence to greater degrees than many of our persona’s or societal customs allow.

Action: Consciously create environments and personas that show more of your essence. Surround yourself with people who are willing to see you and be seen deeply in both beauty and pain. Burning man, certain seminars, BDSM and other communities are all responses to the need within our culture to connect in real ways. Embrace your own path before the process of numbing pain puts you too deeply asleep to wake up.

Contents

Cresting the Waves:

A guide to sailing through life on

Relation-Ships

Dane E. Rose