A Healthy Diet
You owe it to your relationship to insure that the rich diet of mental and emotional food you received from your single life continues to feed you in your time in relationship. The pressure to stay together, do things together and reassure your partner’s insecurity can leave both of you to give up many of the things that fed you. Without the mental, physical and emotional diet of variety that many of us experience as single beings, we can no longer bring the vitality to our partner that attracted them to us in the first place. At the same time, if you do not give up certain things in order to make room for a rich and healthy relationship, it will soon die or become mediocre. Together with your partner, ask yourself: Am I feeling more alive right now than I was before this relationship? Is more of me being nourished as a result of this relationship? If not, either change the relationship so that it feeds you in new areas, or create outside sources of nourishment to support you. Action: Take inventory of the times and situations in which you have felt the most alive, rich, free and full. Assess your current relationship and notice whether you still have room to fully be your self. Begin a conversation about this with your partner.
Cresting the Waves:
A guide to sailing through life on
Relation-Ships
Dane E. Rose
