Loving With No Strings

One part of us is pragmatic and helps us respond to our daily life: The house needs to be clean and safe. We need money. Our bodies are comfortable in this temperature and not in others. We have a life, with times we are available and times we are not. The rent is due and needs to be paid on the first. This part of ourselves does what it needs to do, pushing aside deeper needs until security and comfort are established and maintained.

There is another part of our selves: a part that longs for the sweet and timeless love of deep heart connection without burden or obligation. That loves to follow the curves of the body in a reverie without boundary. Eyes that look out and see a god and goddess more beautiful than words can tell. This part of ourselves is equally real. It is also growing increasingly extinct. Much of the desolation, frustration and pain we feel is from this side of our selves that has fewer and fewer oasis within our modern world in which to be replenished.

Consider seeing these two sides as separate beings living within with complimentary, yet diametrically apposed needs. In relationship it is valuable for a couple to understand these two distinct faces within each other and to decide with whom is the relationship being built? The more you weave together your pragmatic lives, the more you will both relate on the basis of how well you each help one another to achieve the security and comfort based goals of living and belonging in society. At the same time, the less you will be able to touch the reverie of god and goddess within.

You need an oasis in the desert that is always green, always there. Your soul will come alive in this place in a way that it will not in a space that you must clean and pay rent on, with a person you must do business with. Give this to each other. Don’t take that rare love away by borrowing money, placing needs. Keep it free. Don’t move in together. Have that with someone, but not with your beloved. And do not require of them that they be or do anything other than be totally there with you without distraction. This is the manna of the gods.

Action: Among all your relationships, create one – with a lover – where there is absolutely no strings. Come together for hours or days and just be together, with no logistics to attend to. Drink in this rich food. Bask in its radiance. Let your only tie be the planning of such periodic events with no communication in between.

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Dane E. Rose