Through Resistance

The dance of relationship at deep levels requires understanding of the potential  pain involved, and skill to navigate the mine fields which could explode that pain into our reality. Without that skill our inner protectors will sabotage our relationship to prevent it from reaching areas where really deep pain can occur.

Our most important decision in embarking on a relationship into the sacred depths of love is selecting partners who can see and communicate at the level of depth we are exploring. Once that capacity is there, the next thing to look at is willingness and commitment on both sides. The questionnaire for partners is one such way to explore this.

Once we embark on a journey of depth with another partner its possibilities never end. Layer by layer the intimacy continues to unfold. It is among the most challenging journey you or I will ever begin. And it is that very open-endedness that is for many so frightening. In the course of that journey we will reach places where we need to seek help, support each another, and take responsibility for ourselves  - sometimes all at the same time.

In the bigger picture, this is one journey we have always been on with all our relationship partners. One relationship may carry us to a certain point on the path where we no longer have the skill to take the next step. We wait then - either treading water with that partner until one of us discovers how to take that next step. Or until another comes along with more skill than us to navigate the next leg of this journey. It is a journey home that is more important than any one outer relationship. Each outer relationship is a gift: an honored offering by some being to accompany us part of our way.

Action: Contemplate what skills you most need to cultivate in your self in order to take the next leg of your journey. Write those skills down and consider a practical step you could take to learn those skills.

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Cresting the Waves:

A guide to sailing through life on

Relation-Ships

Dane E. Rose