The Cost of Being Open

Have you ever wondered why, even when you feel deep loneliness, you are so cautious opening to the love you want? A deep part of you knows, that, as with physical sex, a blending of two energy bodies, which happens in love, allows for some of the greatest pleasures we will ever know as well as the possibility of giving birth to something we are not ready for and/ or contracting disease.

We have learned to take precautions around physical sex to protect ourselves from unwanted children and disease. For our emotional bodies to feel safe enough to blend deeply and give us the experience of depth and fulfillment, we need to learn to protect ourselves from others energetic waste.

Energy is infectious. We can "catch" another's feelings in the same way we might catch their cold. We can see this easiest with our parents. Arriving totally open in our mother’s body, blending was essential for our survival. In the process we took on some of their best and worst qualities in the form of mental/emotional “viruses” that get passed on from one generation to the next. We are still impacted profoundly today by our involuntary openness.

Many of us vowed at some point in our childhood that we would never give another the possibility to affect us so deeply again. Reversing this decision in select cases is necessary if we are to experience the profound depths of love parts of us feel so parched without.

Energy blending feels good. There is a deep part of us that longs to surrender all boundaries because it reminds us of what it feels like to be home, in the womb. Having sex with someone who has a deadly disease feels just as good as having sex with someone who is healthy. There is a role for critical thinking and discipline in energetic connections as well if they are to serve us.

Looking from another angle: Physical sex feels great, even in a one night stand. But what if a child is conceived and there is no container of commitment ready to receive that child? Many women run the risk of a deep depression after an abortion. Or if the child is born without an adequate container it can be equally painful.

In energetic blending, there are many beautiful conceptions that take place. Not the least of which can be a deep love that needs container and commitment to grow. When container is not there the resulting “abortion” can be equally painful. Tending a deep love for another as a “single parent” is no fun at all.

Action: Consider cyrrent and perhaps unconscious system you  use to protect your self from unwanted "pregnancy" and influence. Are there any changes you wish to make to this system?

 

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Dane E. Rose