Know Your Customers

You are marketable to a select group of people exactly as you are. If you are shy, there are people who like being extroverts and need shy people to draw out. If you are loud and a rebel, there are people that get off on hanging with a non conformist. The trick is knowing who you are and what you bring to a complimentary partner. The key is knowing that you cannot appeal to everyone and will fail miserably if you try.

There is no need to change… unless you want to change the role you currently play in relationship because it would be more fun to play something else. But do so because you want a different part, not out of any illusion that you need to in order to be in relationship. Every change you make leaves you less attractive to some and more attractive to others. If you were to develop a drug habit, you would suddenly be very marketable to a new group of people and be undesirable to others. If you make more money, some people will like you more and others will judge you.

Action: Make a list of what you currently bring to relationship and analyze which group of people would really value that role. It’s not about judging good or bad, just noting who your customers are for your current scripts and personas.

Contents

Cresting the Waves:

A guide to sailing through life on

Relation-Ships

Dane E. Rose