Accepting Limitations

I recently ended my physical relationship with one of the most amazing women I have ever met. She is such a beautiful being.

There were no problems, inadequacies or failings. However I was aware that I was running a script of relationship that was leading to pain for us both. As aware as I was of this script, it was poised to play itself out before I had the skill and time I needed to take responsibility for dismantling it.

Because neither of us wanted to hold our flow in check while I sorted this out, we chose to end our relationship with a celebration of our love and agree not to contact each other for at least six months.

In our closing conversation, I shared with her the program that led to me having this script, as well as the forces that locked it in place. I also shared my experience of a need for space to connect with things I did not have persona’s to express to others. As such it served me to be alone for a time.

Her acceptance of me in this place was one of the greatest gifts I have ever received. It is hard to let go of perfect love and not use our minds to rationalize us into controlling it to last.

It is the twisted attachment to love that precludes such beautiful partings, along with the ethic of “working” to “fix” relationships that are perfect the way they are. While there is great benefit and growth to be had from fighting, holding on and triumphing, we will never experience the ease and grace of beautiful parting without allowing for endings of perfect relationships by beautiful partners.

Action: Be kind enough to you and your partner to love and accept your limitations, separating where need be to take good care each other.

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Dane E. Rose