Why So Much Shadow?
It's not very popular for a relationship book to focus on the nitty gritty pain we all experience at times. So why do it? In my assessment there is a lot of pain, necessary and unnecessary, in the arena of relationships. I would guess that more than 80% of the world's relationships generate a fair amount of conscious and unconscious pain. What percentage would you guess? Statistically about 20% of relationships generate a pain that at times we would classify as "abuse." Why?Without adequate answers our mind turns inward in self blame: "My love is not good enough. What's wrong with me? I am not a loving person." This ultimately becomes externalized: "Their love is not good enough. People are bad and can't be trusted." Once this belief is entrenched we are faced with a question: "Why do we continue to fight to exist in a world with inadequate, untrustworthy people?"The alternative involves looking deeply at the complexities of who we are and why we do things. It involves understanding that much of the pain in the world is here because we love too much, not too little. I write about shadow because the pain is real: you and I both feel it, whether or not we numb ourselves to it. By piecing together the truths within our shadow we can distill our beauty, and our true magnificence. We can see behind the masks at the true beauty of humanity and find a clear reason to grow and to exist.
Cresting the Waves:
A guide to sailing through life on
Relation-Ships
Dane E. Rose
