Appreciations! Appreciations! Appreciations!
Few things are as powerful at opening the heart and cementing connection in relationship. When things are going too fast to appreciate all of the gifts our partner brings to us, it’s a good time to slow down and take a breath of gratitude. Mining your interactions for appreciations is both fun and satisfying for your partner. To start, I’d like to share some appreciations with you:- I appreciate you for reading my book and interest it implies in what I have to say.
- I appreciate you for being someone that cares enough about yourself and others to want to learn more about love and the art of relating.
- I appreciate your success in creating a life in which you have time to read these words. Many do not have that luxury and I'm proud of you.
- I appreciate the fact that as a result of choices to read this and other books, you are going to love others more beautifully - others who are likely to be more generous with me when I encounter them.
- I appreciate the opportunity to express myself to you – that you give me a reason to share what I know. That means a lot to me!
- I appreciate you being among the most evolved beings on this planet, and the journey you have taken in order to reach this amazing juncture of human evolution.
There are so many other things I would appreciate you for if I had the chance to meet you and get to know you individually. But even just from what I know of you, I can deduce that you are pro-active, action oriented, intelligent, loving, hopeful, and persistent. I see all of those in the reality that you have chosen to get this far in the book. Thank you!I invite you to take a moment now and write some appreciations about yourself and your partner. The challenge is to start from an honest foundation of assuming nothing, not a base point of your ideal. This will determine whether you resent or feel gratitude for all the things about your partner and yourself that are beautiful. Action: Write at least two pages, one page of appreciations you have for your self, one page of appreciations for someone you love. Create an uninterrupted space to read your appreciations to your loved on with the condition that they let each one in with a "thank you" and no other remarks. We are so predisposed to resist heartfelt appreciations that in our nervousness most reflexive responses serve to distract and diminish the appreciation - hence the no comment rule.
Cresting the Waves:
A guide to sailing through life on
Relation-Ships
Dane E. Rose
