No Win of the Slut

We all long at some level to be seen in all of our masks – to be embraced in all of our personas and know that our essence is OK regardless of it’s disguise. We savor the richness of a life that expresses all of our potential, light and dark. From our work to our sexuality we want the freedom to soar and the range to go deep.

There is a painful trap we encounter in our world as we attempt to achieve this goal. When we cross the unacceptable line we are shut out. We are no longer seen in our magnificence, but pigeon holed into a box that precludes seeing all of who we are.

Every woman has a persona that longs to be treated with the beautiful elegance and respect of a goddess. Dressed in shimmering robes, she arrives at the ball and is respectfully courted by handsome men who tell her how wonderful she is.

Every woman also has a beautifully earthy slut that wants to be desired, and fucked by raw masculine energy that is so turned on by her scent that he cannot withhold his cum. She wants to roar with the wild ecstasy of orgasm and be taken violently again. She seeks acceptance and love in this side of her nature as well.

The problem is that if the woman in the fine gown is seen being fucked no one will ever see the goddess in her again. When she stands, resplendent in her radiance, all they will see is an image of her on all fours being fucked like an animal. They will not allow her to return to her glory if she chooses the path of pleasure. She will be punished with a high price. For many women the price is too high to pay.

If she has money and fame, she may be able to do both, as long as she is beautiful. But then she loses something else: put on a pedestal, people stop really seeing the simple human being she is with daily feelings. They will only see her as the perfect goddess who can do anything she wants and do no wrong.

In other words, there is no way to win. Every woman who explores herself feels both the joy of this exploration and the humiliation of being trapped by a culture that will skin them alive for being visible as their full self. The level of hatred and envy that is directed at the self who aspires to freedom outside this prison is immense. The tear down techniques employed by those that envy are cruel.

Action: Choose people around you who are comfortable being more of their full selves than you are. Process through your resistance to find ways of being all that you are with them.

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Cresting the Waves:

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Relation-Ships

Dane E. Rose