The Reality of Love

Love is not just a feeling, but an eye. It is the eye within each one of us which is capable of seeing the divine union which exists between us and the ones we love.

Love is the domain in which that union exists between all beings and all things. The eye of love allows us to see and feel that connection with the beings and things we associate that love with.

When we honor that divine union between two beings by behaving in a way that serves the one we love as well as ourselves, we build trust and safety to step deeper into that union. In doing so we create the opportunity for another to honor that connection in return, or to dishonor it and in doing so cause us pain.

We feel hurt, pain and loneliness when the lens of love through which we see our divine union is damaged by a violation to the truth of that union. When the connection we see so clearly is neither recognized or trusted by our partner, we feel afraid that what we are seeing and experiencing is not real. That fear is a symptom of a belief that grows within us: Maybe this was never real. Maybe I am being silly. I should have known better. This belief obscures our vision from what is and leaves us again in the darkness, feeling separate.

Our partner’s ability to hurt us emotionally, mentally and spiritually is directly connected to their ability to influence how much we see and believe in our sacred union with them. If, through their own fear and distrust expressed in painful action, they can convince us that the love we feel is false, they can hurt us very deeply. They hurt us by emotionally and mentally poking out the eye that sees our divine connection. They hurt us because without this eye we feel completely alone and abandoned. It is the most painful of all illusions.

This is also your fulcrum of power. If you can understand that your partner is simply afraid of believing in love again and then feeling like a fool as their own eye is ripped away by you; is afraid of giving you the power to take their eye out, knowing that they do not have the courage to believe in their own love  if you do not, then they must find their power by taking out your eye instead. If you can really know this, with compassion and love, you can step away from them knowing they are not yet strong enough to honor your divine union. But that your love for them, and theirs for yours is independent of the relationship you form or their ability to honor it. You can step back out of respect for where they are with your vision intact. You can see the love that your partner is too terrified to see. When the time is right in this world or another, all loves will be honored. Yours can be the joy of knowing that.

Action: Respect others comfort zone around acknowledging the divine union between all things. Select those in your life to be close with who are willing to see and behave consistent with the level of sight that matches your own. To step into this realm is to be in a realm of miracles and grace.

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Dane E. Rose