Using Filters
A filter separates one energy from another. It can serve us to distill that which truly serves us from the rest.
A beloved and I wanted to protect the beauty of our love from two things that did not serve us. The first was a pattern of mine that I play out when I want some space to myself, which involves me feeling ambivalent and jerking a partner around in a push/pull dynamic. To filter this out simply I asked that we suspend our relationship for three months without contact. The second thing we wanted to filter out was her pattern of holding on to connections and not really letting them go. While three months of separation would remove my pattern from the mix, she wanted to really let go of the relationship so she could be available for other partners in the meantime. The security of six months without contact filtered out the urge to hang on and supported her in being available for other partners. We settled on a six month time filter to neutralize both patterns.
Time is a beautiful and powerful filter. But so is every energy. Grudges are filtered out through deep forgiveness. Inertia and boredom are filtered out by telling the truth and the action of giving of oneself. The conceptual framework of filters provides focus to determine what does not serve you and select an energy pattern that when implemented, transforms the energy that does not currently serve. There are endless ways of doing this.
Action: Pick something you do not feel serves you well. Now design a filter that can transform this energy. Put yourself through the filter you have created.
