The Love Addiction

Deep in our bodies, deeper in our hearts and souls, we long with a passionate fire to be smelted and fused back into the oneness from which we came. The glimpses of such union through food, violence, sex, alcohol and drugs can drive us to impossible madness, and misery.

Learning to harness that drive to actualize our full potential rather than self destruct lies at the heart of the human journey. In relationship the constructive and destructive paths of love addiction mingle in a complex array that is both a fast track to either individuation or pain.

Are you able to differentiate within yourself and your partner the drive to self destruct from the desire to strengthen and become? Both drives pull one back to the source: one by destroying the ego and returning, undifferentiated to the one source. The other by creating a new way of being to consciously take our uniqueness to the source as equal partner.

Because each of us has both drives within us, some seeming as saboteurs, others like divine guidance, the opportunity to villainize our partners is great as the demon within us gets projected onto the demon within them. “It’s her fault. My life would be fine if it was not for her determined effort to destroy all our chances to success.”

This presents a challenge in relationship. Because while your partner is indeed joining with you to unconsciously destroy the pathway to freedom and fulfillment, so also are they your most powerful ally in becoming all you are. Can you forgive the projected personification of your own lesser being? Can you love the part in you, out there, who would sell you out in a minute if it had the chance? Seeing this truth in your partner, who and what can you trust?

Action: There are many reasons to end a relationship and many reasons to continue. Keep the question alive. If you desire a fulfilling deeper journey, pick someone who is conscious of both their light and shadow self, and who will support you in seeing yours, as you both become conscious of the creative battle within.

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Dane E. Rose