Space and Connection
It is common in relationship for at least one person to feel insecure, leading to a desire to restrict the freedom of their partner. The fear of separation comes from a lack of vision. We are all connected to the whole, but what our fear is telling us is that we can no longer see that connection and wish to avoid our feelings of loneliness by keeping our partner in physical view. When we restrict our partner’s freedom out of our own disconnection from oneness, we are asking our partner to disconnect from their natural flow, which may in turn separate them from their own sense of inner connection. In this way we may be moving backward. For if we succeed in manipulating a partner to abandon their flow, they may also lose touch with their connection with us and the relationship dies inside. Once this death occurs, it is not long before the outer relationship ends or loses all sense of pleasure. Action: When you are challenged by your partner to shrink in order to re-assure their fear, offer conscious support to help them step into a bigger place. If a tighter sense of connectedness is still preferred, agree to support each other in the choice of more appropriate partners.
Cresting the Waves:
A guide to sailing through life on
Relation-Ships
Dane E. Rose
