Know Your Saturation Point
We have a saturation point in our connection with everyone. Finding that saturation point and managing ourselves and our communication around it is a key skill to maintaining a pleasurable relationship. We know we have reached our saturation point when our resistance is greater than our desire for connection. We reach our saturation point for several reasons:
•When a relationship is toxic to our system in certain doses our protectors come up to push the other person away.
When a relationship is toxic to our system in certain doses our protectors come up to push the other person away.•When we are receiving more nutrients than we have the skill to spontaneously assimilate from our partners we will need to break our interactions into bite sized pieces we can manage.
When we are receiving more nutrients than we have the skill to spontaneously assimilate from our partners we will need to break our interactions into bite sized pieces we can manage.•When we are not grounded and don’t release our energy to the earth there is no room to allow more of our partners energy in and we feel claustrophobic.
When we are not grounded and don’t release our energy to the earth there is no room to allow more of our partners energy in and we feel claustrophobic.•When we are committed to avoiding some piece of ourselves that our partner draws forth we will reach our resistance point quickly.
When we are committed to avoiding some piece of ourselves that our partner draws forth we will reach our resistance point quickly.•When our partners are deeply nourishing for us it is much like eating a nutritious meal. After receiving so much health it is healthy to pause and use that energy to create things in our lives.
When our partners are deeply nourishing for us it is much like eating a nutritious meal. After receiving so much health it is healthy to pause and use that energy to create things in our lives.It is respectful to honor our saturation point whenever we reach it and to know that it is not automatically a sign that anything is wrong. Some people offer powerful medicine that in small doses can catalyze our growth, but in larger quantities are toxic to our well being. Action: When your partner begins pulling back, honor their movement and give them space. You may be too filling to eat in large quantities. Talk about what is going on to understand which one of these drives appears to be at play.
Cresting the Waves:
A guide to sailing through life on
Relation-Ships
Dane E. Rose
