Specialists In Life

Very simply, everything has a cost. Your partner has many beautiful qualities. They also do things that drive you crazy. It is likely that the same experiences that supported them in creating their strengths, also predisposed them to their weaknesses.

Your partner may be an amazing wizard with money, objects and logistics, but be disconnected from his empathy for other’s feelings much of the time. Feelings can blur and overwhelm the swift thought processes they may use to make money and get things done.

They may be an amazing lover that makes you feel so safe as they always say “yes.” They may also have little to show in the way of outer accomplishments, as the price they willingly pay to be who they are: a specialist as a beautiful lover. The greatest brain surgeon is just that: a specialist who is not also the greatest foodball player of all time.

One of the most important aspects of relationship is prioritizing what is important to you. Everyone is uniquely gifted and challenged. What are the important qualities in relationship for you? Not all of them are as automatic as it seems. You may be going through a lot of shit in your process and value someone who will be steady and patient with you more than how successful or cool they are.

Action: Write down 7 characteristics that are most important to you in a partner. Let go of your resentment of the liabilities that come with the gifts of who you and your partner are.

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Dane E. Rose