Sex and Pain

Sexuality is an amazingly complex expression of the duality in the world around us. This is reflected in the reality that violence, pain and dominance often produce as much arousal as gentleness and love.

When a child is born it is an amazingly sexual act. Conceived in passion, the child is born through the mother’s vagina. There is both orgasmic pleasure and pain in the process of conceiving, delivering and raising a child. A mother gives of herself out of love and in so doing weakens and strains her body. She also gives up opportunity to nurture herself in her choice to  nurture her child.

A mother is rewarded by a unique love that is often unlike anything she has ever felt. Even as her body, pocketbook, and certain social explorations pay the price, her being expands and strengthens in a love that is awe inspiring.

Sexuality can enter this domain as well, as we voluntarily surrender our bodies to give our partner pleasure. Amidst all of the new age hype about ease and taking care of number one, some of our desire for pain, dominance and submission in sexuality is to connect us with the deeper love that can be born by such experiences, and which our PC minds have denied us in the other areas of our life.

Action: Out of respect for yourself and love for your partner, consider creating space in your sexuality for an exploration of BDSM in your relationship. Be tender with yourselves and honor if it is not right for either of you at this time. Read a book about the topic if it is new to you.

Contents

Cresting the Waves:

A guide to sailing through life on

Relation-Ships

Dane E. Rose