The Power of Sex

One of the greatest gifts of our sexuality is the powerful tool it is in helping us connect with the eyes of love. Sexuality is such a powerful conduit of energetic exchange that it is almost impossible to deny the union that is being experienced.

The fact that through sexuality we can in a moment open to the beauty of divinity in our partner, and in the next moment snap back into our normal waking eyes of separation makes sexuality an intense and potentially volatile experience. This volatility is responsible for much of the pain that we experience when we trust love and wish it to continue. To feel our partner loving us in union one moment and an hour later have them treat us as if we are not important or separate is excruciating. We don’t know what happened, but whatever happened it is very painful.

This leads many experienced sexual partners to shut down emotionally: refusing to be touched by the eyes of love altogether so that at least there is a sense of consistency. It is just too painful to taste that union and have it snuffed away again.

Healing can begin to occur by realizing that sex is a mechanism that in some ways forces our eyes which see our union to open. Relationships that lack the strength of understanding, commitment and courage may not be willing to be responsible for the union that is revealed. It is as if you both realize you are parents of this union, but are not willing to own the role of stewarding it. It is incredibly painful to witness such an abandonment. This is part of the truth which can help us understand why such an amazingly beautiful vehicle of self expression and pleasure is resisted so creatively so often by so many.

Understanding this, you can choose sexual partners who have the courage and tenderness to hold and respect the loving union you both open to. And you can understand that those who turned away from such love were simply too confused, frightened or incapable to embrace it. Rather than risk feeling and encountering their own inadequacy, it was easier for them to deny that the love ever existed in the first place.

Action: Pick partners to make love with who have the courage and ability to be present for the love that is created. Have a conversation with prospective lovers prior to sexual intercourse about this dynamic and how you want to respond to the love that is born together. A container of commitment is one way to create safety for the union you both share to be conscious and integrate into your daily lives.

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Dane E. Rose