Growth Backlash
Whenever we change something on a deep level, it shifts our self image, creating a vulnerable vortice of uncertainty and chaos. In that moment of uncertainty there is the possibility for life altering perception. Our protectors are swift at containing this uncertain and vulnerable moment by quickly stabilizing our sense of reality. Many of us are most grounded in our limitations and these limitations serve as powerful anchors for our protectors to use to bring us back into known, stable terrain. It is as if, in that moment, our protectors catch a glimpse of the unimaginable dark chaos that is possible, and yank us back to the strongest lines that have defined our past identity. This is what is known as a healing or spiritual backlash. It is one of the reasons not to force deep transformational work faster than we feel ready to digest. Despite the value of drugs in opening gateways, this is also one of their potential harms: they enable perception we may not yet be ready to own and integrate, and as such, create the risk of a backlash. Action: Prepare yourself by grounding and establishing boundaries before choosing to enter life changing situations. If you are thrust into unforeseen growth, however beautiful, consciously create time to integrate and reach out for support.
Cresting the Waves:
A guide to sailing through life on
Relation-Ships
Dane E. Rose
