Cresting the Waves:

A guide to sailing through life on 

 Relation-Ships

 Dane E. Colby

Table of Contents



1.     Author's Bio

2.     Introduction


3.     Ways to View this Book:

​                Unconscious Guidance

​                Why so much Shadow?

​                This Book will Trigger You

​                Human Beauty/ Human Inadequacy

​                Criticize and Appreciate

​                Undervalued Stocks


4.     Serving Your Divine Child


5.     Tools to Build and Maintain Your Ship:

​                The Life Partnership Questionnaire

​                A list of Relationship Skills

​                Amazing Long Distance

​                Indicate or Be Direct

                Valuable Perspectives

                Know Your Customers

                The Self Pity Ritual  

                Understanding Values


6.     Relating to Our Wounds:

​                Twisted Endings

​                Dance of Sabotage

​                What Makes Abuse?

                Windows into Addiction

                Addictive Cycles

                Growth Backlashes

                Where Loyalties Lie

                No Win Intimacy

                The Rejection Cycle

                Rage at Innocence

                Subtle Torture

                Feeling Invisible

​                When More Creates a Feeling of Less

​                A Rest from Truth

​                The Pull To Violence

​                It's all too Much


7.    Sexuality:

                Killer Programs

​                Sex and Pain

​                No Win of the Slut

​                Pornography

                Honor All of Your Sexual Selves

​                Times of Giving and Receiving


8.    Support Your Relationships with Growth:

                The Intimacy Game

                Going into Business for Yourself

                The Choice to Have Children

​                Space and Connection

                Playing with Personas

                Piercing Personas

                Relationship Contracts

                A Path of Healing

                Birth of a Martyr

                Finding Our Saturation Point

                Create Safety with Responsibility

​                Playing Your Edge

                Freedom From the Past

                Shaking Things Up

                Refusing to Receive What we Can't Live Without

                Learning to Dance 

                Reclaiming Our Lost Selves


9.    Dancing With Divinity:

​                Sword of Choice

                Finding Our Soul Mate

                Magic and Form

                Deconstructing Harry

                Seeing Divinity in Our Lover

                The Big Relationship

                Split Faces of God

                The Dance between Love and Shadow

                The Love Addiction

                Truth is Alive

​                A Relationship is an Eternity

​                The Theater of Selves


10.   Seeing and Being Seen by Your Partner:

​                A Relationship Budget

​                Bringers of Truth

​                A Gift to Our Partners

​                Castrating Our Selves With Contracts

​                Anger at Men

​                Relationships as Service

​                Our Soul Mate

​                Beautiful Endings

​                I Love You

​                Sirens of Perfection

​                A Healthy Diet

​                Setting Your Gems

​                Partner Compatibility

​                Deposits in the Relationship Account

​                Appreciations! Appreciations! Appreciations!

​                Solving Problems vs. Being Present

​                Changing Perception

​                What Can You Promise?

​                Love is like the Sun

​                Can I Trust You?

​                The Push/Pull Dance

​                Specialists in Life


11.   Personal Power:

​                The Power of Yes!

​                Your Upper Limit of Success

​                Raising Your Upper Limit of Success

​                Wave and Particle Based Manifestation

​                Increase Your Vision

                Consciously Playing the Game

                Creating Limitless Possibility

                Why We Don't Ask 

                Cooking Personas

                Pacing a Crisis

​                Awareness is Power

​                Owning Our Lineage

​                The Need to Matter

​                Guilty Dreams

​                Who Said it Had to be This Way?

​                A Right To Be Where We Are

​                Your Relationship Altar

​                Cultivating Proactive Motivation

​                Power to Cognize

​                Accepting What Is

​                Absolute Values


12.    A Dimension of Love:

​                A Dimension of Love

​                Many Kinds of Love

​                The Art of Love

​                Grinding to a Halt

​                Through Resistance

​                Medicinal Doses

​                The Reality of Love

​                The Power of Sex

​                Learning to Love


13.    Future Visions:

​                Serving From Within


14.   Growing New Eyes:

​                Reasons to be Paranoid

​                Points of View

​                Perspective and Connection

​                Perceiving Depth

​                Threatened by Another's Truth

​                Secret Conversations

​                Gems of Complexity

​                Breaking Deadlock

​                It's the Eyes that Count

​                Valuing Full Range

​                Embracing Life's Sick Sense of Humor

​                The Cost of Being Open

​                The Need For Balance

​                Our Modern Myths

​                About You?

​                Love Without Strings

​                Our Complex Selves

​                Evolving Dances

​                Skewed to the Negative

​                The Call of Beauty

​                Beauty of Death

​                The Investment Game

​                Open and Closed Systems



15.   Personal Stories:

​                A Tale of Shifting Roles

​                The Old and the Young

​                Our Choice of Vision

​                Manic Depressive

​                Using Filters

​                Gifts of Our Mythological Minds

​                Partnering In Personas

​                Honor The Gifts Within

​                Killing off the Ones We Love

​                Accessing Love

​                Embracing Obstacles

​                Bad Moods

​                Keeper Personas

​                Resolving Frustration

​                Our Factory of Creation

​                Pick Your Problems

​                Accepting Limitations


16.   Talking with the author

17.    Join the mailing List

18.    Relationship Resources



Cresting the Waves:

A guide to sailing through life on 

Relation-Ships

 Dane E. Rose